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30 Jun

Pink and black wedding still bisexual sign

Today’s feature not only stuns you with gorgeous vibrant styling and imagery, but it carries a message just as loud… Still Bisexual!

Dealing with the phenomenon of bi-erasure… being perceived as no longer bisexual when you get married, is a common assumption made by wider society based solely on outward appearances.

The shoot itself is breath-taking, loud and unapologetic. The team created the perfect antidote to soft pink cuteness; skulls, spikes and leopard print infused, but still girly! and we are here for it!

We asked April of Wilder Photography a few questions about the shoot and how the concept was created:

black and white background, black and pink couple

Tell us about the idea behind the shoot:-

When I first put together the shoot I wanted to navigate two things

1. You can be a girly girl and love pink and be soft and fem but also have a kick ass style and attitude for the world!

2. It was extremely important for me to put across the ‘still bisexual’ message which was the main image from the shoot.

As a bisexual woman who is married to a man I have to deal with the stupid assumption that I am now somehow ‘straight’. I wanted to put something out there to say not straight but still very much in love and happy with monogamy.

How do you feel this wedding/shoot will inspire our couples?-

I hope that people who identify as having single gender attractions can take from this a little enlightenment that our chosen partner does not dictate our sexuality and also other people who have attractions to more than one gender are able to see they are not alone in this silly judgement and can find their own kick ass attitude and tell any naysayers to go to hell!

Are there any comments you’d like to make about the wedding industry in general or your experience navigating through it?-

I have such a love for the wedding industry but I would definitely like to see more open conversations about how to better navigate other peoples sexuality, neurodivergence, gender identity – we have the position to make anybody feel comfortable and seen and accepted. It shouldn’t be that queer couples are having to check that is ok with their suppliers.

Do you have any advice for future engaged couples?-

Be yourselves, your whole self, stop thinking about what Aunt Vicky or your Gran would want or think of your wedding choices and do what makes you actually happy? You want bisexual flags over the backs of your guests chairs? Do it, you will remember how seen you felt and how confident and comfortable, you won’t remember the tired eye rolls from closed minded people.

Is there anything else you would like to add? -

I talked enough on the subject of the shoot the only other thing I could personally say would be that this shoot may have been conceived and photographed my me but it would be nothing without the whole team, who were all absolutely incredible and just breathtakingly talented.

This shoot has definitely got me thinking, as a wedding supplier, how important it is to give people the space to process these emotions during the wedding planning journey too; because bi-erasure isn’t something you just notice after you are married… it’s something you feel throughout your entire wedding planning journey, and in some cases, there is a process in learning how to deal with being perceived as straight too.